Are there any topics that are off limits or generally avoided or are you two free to talk about anything?

I know some couples with opposite political or religious views who "keep the peace" by simply not talking about such things.

I'm sure there are more than a few couples where one partner is kinkier than the other, or doesn't share all of THAT side.

Many people have a more difficult time talking about feelings and whatnot.

What about some of your most embarrassing moments in life, or biggest personal flaws and regrets? Are you comfortable telling some of it to anyone at all?


Myself? I'm single at the moment, but ideally, I'd want to be able to share ANYTHING with a romantic partner. Like go way deeper than what I would with friends.

Wasn't sure if this topic would interest many people, but decided to post anyway.

I may or may not pass out soon after posting this, as I JUST got off an overtime shift and I'm dead tired, but feel free to comment.

 

If you are in a relationship with someone you should be able to share everything with them. If they are "your person" you shouldn't be afraid to talk to them about anything, even if it is embarrassing or doesn't paint you in the perfect light.

 

My wife is free to talk about anything she wants. And I’m free to not listen to a fuckin thing she says.

 

I can't think of any topics that are "off limits" with the hubby, although over the years I have learned which things he just won't "get", so I don't bother with those.

 

I know the term "soul mate" is a sappy cliché, but other than a few things so irrelevant to mention, we generally like and dislike the same things.

 

There is nothing he doesn't know about me. There is nothing I don't know about him. We met here. Our politics sometimes differ but that doesn't get in the way of our love.

 

I’m pretty sure my husband and I tell each other everything. We sometimes don’t agree but that doesn’t seem to really matter.

 

We just about agree on everything.

 

I liked having my secrets from my spouse or girlfriend (never about cheating, because I have never cheated), but like smoking and airing myself out and using mints on my way home from work... sure. I'm not gonna fucking argue about it every single goddam night.

 

Nothing is off limits. We can talk about anything. We might not always agree, but I’ve never been afraid to speak my mind, and I promise you, she will definitely speak hers

I can’t be in a relationship if I can’t be me. I can’t do that stress. I need to feel comfortable in my home, and I can’t do that if we both have to walk on egg shells, or hide shit from each other. I’d go fucking nuts, and it’d just be a recipe for a toxic relationship. I’d rather be single than deal with that.

 

We agree about everything she says.

 

Obviously you've never married anyone from New Jersey.

 

We don't talk politics anymore. When we did I would usually end up in tears because he was so condescending.

 

I share everything. I assume she does the same.

 

I used to keep things from my kid’s dad because he just didn’t understand me. He said he loved me for my kind heart, but then would get mad at me for being kind, telling me I’m too soft. He didn’t like when I was wild, so I calmed down. He didn’t like me having male friends, so I let them go. He didn’t even like my sexual side, saying I wanted it too much. I think that if you’re hiding your true self to make someone happy, it’s not a good match. You shouldn’t have to censor your thoughts to keep the peace. Debating topics is healthy, even arguing two different points of view, as long as both of you are respectful.

 

It was sharing the secret things we had never told anyone else that turned my 10 year best friend into my lover and wife of 17 years. It was not finding an equal way (she was more than a little selfish) to make those secrets part of our relationship reality that ended our marriage and turned us back into just best friends( with about 3 years of turmoil). Don't think I will ever have someone I could confide in like that again, or would want to.

 

No secrets. He often knows what I’m thinking before I say anything.

The only thing I won’t share with him is the last slice of cheesecake.

 

Mrs Lav was my very first proper girlfriend and we've stuck at it from day one, so after 53 years together it's fair to say we have most things in common!


Actually that's not strictly true cos my heels are too big for her!